Dating men who are uneducated
While we are part of a generation that has seen the economic prospects of women rise significantly, while we are part of a generation in which women are considered more equal to men than ever before, where womanhood is defined in more ways than ever before, my fiancé is still only defined by one thing: his job. After years of my mother’s voice warning me not to marry someone with stagnant economic opportunities, I too have asked my fiancé what he really wants to do with his life, what career would satisfy him.
No one assigns any value to his other contributions—his relationships, his marriage, his family—because effort in those areas by men is not validated. Because in my mind, no one really wants to work in a warehouse. There isn’t really any job that would fulfill him, because the things that fulfill him are at home, not at work.
I’m 36 years old and I have dated this guy for a long time. He also doesn’t attend church but claims to have a relationship with God. ________________________________________________________________________ My dear, I will straight off recommend Ross T’s So you want to marry series…
I’m the opposite though, I have a relationship with God and I’m educated. It’s a practical guide for the lady seeking a husband.
Stay-at-home dads are asked if they are “in transition.” No one asks a man at a dinner party how his kids are doing in school. ” People are not okay with a man not having career ambitions, with a man not climbing the ladder. He works so he can be with me, so he can contribute to our family, so he can pay the vet bills. The man I love doesn’t define himself by his career; he defines himself by his relationships with those around them. Who is anyone to say that he must define himself in a certain way?
I am not making a mistake by marrying a man who earns less than me.
People are deeply unsettled to see a woman with so much potential “marrying down.” Here is the problem.As I grew older my mother counseled me to find a partner with a good education and a strong work ethic.She warned me of the pain she experienced when leaving an infant at daycare for long hours because she needed to earn enough to support a family.Instead he supports me as I work through my very demanding program, and we split the chores fifty-fifty so I can concentrate on my schoolwork. And I am marrying him knowing that after I graduate, I will significantly out-earn him.During exam periods, he pretty much takes on a hundred percent of the domestic drudgery. He and I have both recognized that I will likely always be the breadwinner, and we’re okay with that.